Hi all, I was thinking about some things today, and I received some advice yesterday that as it turns out was very helpful for me. Then I did a little research online and found the below advice / instructions.. It has helped me allot and hopefully it can help you as well.
"Are you sometimes trapped in a corridor by your own mind? Do you find you have a tendency to replay a hurtful conversation over and over in your head? Are there things you can’t stop thinking about such as bills, a failed relationship, a fight at work or a slight from a family member?
Time to get unstuck; to stop obsessing."
"I’m sure all of us at one time or another feel overwhelmed by something that won’t go away. Perhaps a friend said something damaging in the presence of another and we can’t stop reliving the event, either in our head, or for a another friend who will listen. The inability to stop these feelings borders on obsession."
"There are ways to curb your fixation. Sometimes by trying to deny what is a particularly nagging problem, we actually do the reverse and have a tendency to help keep it fueled. Instead, experts suggest we set aside some time—like an hour’s ride in the car or the time it takes for a tub bath—to devote to thinking out the problem in its entirety."
"I would like to submit a different take on this solution: the journal. Spend some time writing. Write a letter about the problem. Express your deepest feelings and spill out your sharpest emotions and then—burn it in a small ceremony. By turning your spent feelings into ash, the problem will seem to have less weight (chemically, for sure.) Don’t balk at this notion of writing and burning. Occasionally the strangest rituals can have especially good effect."
I guess that is what my old posts were (I am Daniel and Punishment).. a journal of the negative stuff that has happened and what I was feeling.. and by deleting it (the computer version of burning) it accomplished the same thing. All the negative, anger fueled rants were what I was feeling and by writing it down then deleting it.. it helped me overcome the issue.
Yesterday I also cleared my life of all the things that "trigger" these feelings in me. I deleted, shredded, and threw away everything I had (and that I could find) of all past relationships, and bad events that reminded me of negative things in my past. It was difficult, but all emails, photos, letters, notes, presents, etc were destroyed, or thrown away.. I have to tell you it was very cathartic and I am a better person for it. The question was asked of me.. Why keep all that stuff? If it effects you in a negative way.. why keep it? So yesterday it all went out the proverbial window.
Wow.. I really don't know what to say after that.. it feels quite profound.. to read that, and realize it is getting better. Admittedly, its a hard road, but it is inproving.
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